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Sugar, Porn, Destructive Behaviors : How to Kill the Addiction!

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They rob your energy, passion for life and self-esteem, yet they are everywhere. Destructive substances, kill more dreams that anything else and they can open a gate to seemingly endless suffering.
Let's see why so many people struggle with addiction, why it is so hard to overcome, and what they can finally make it.
Sometimes addiction is described as a way to satisfy an emotional or spiritual need by something physical. It's like feeling a void inside and trying to fill it up with things. It will never work. No matter how much sugar you eat, it will never heal an emotional wound. No matter how much ...

porn you watch it will never give you a satisfying love and sex life. When we are unsuccesfull at something important to us, we can tend to blame something, anything! Well, if we eat to much sugar...let's blame the sugar! Don't get me wrong, some people out there are spending a lot of money, to find new ways to make you eat more sugar, so that they can earn more money. However when you blame something or someone, you give them the power. If you blame sugar, it means that sugar is responsible for your addiction. Well, if i is true you are in big trouble, because you will have to wait for sugar to make a decision to quit your life! As Will Smith said in one of his videos, we should make the difference between fault and responsability. It might not be your fault if you were exposed to addictive substances, but it is definitely your responsability to end it!

There is something tricky about this. It is that the minute you label yourself as addicted, you reinforce your issue. You influence your identity. You go from "I have a problem" to "I am the problem". And at the same time, if you don't do it, you could underestimate the situation and keep going in the wrong direction. Here is the catch. When we identify any problem, we don't have to stay there. Even if you have defined yourself as addicted for years, don't stay there. This destructive substance or behavior is not the truth about yourself. 

In any unwanted situation it is helpfull to define what we want. Don't make the mistake to wait for the problem to be solved to start dreaming and wanting again. Dreaming and wanting are the way out! You've got to focus on what you want! But when under an addiction most people try to...eat less sugar, or stop watching porn, or stop doing the thing they want to stop. But if we want build a new reality for ourself we have to go further. For exemple : I want to eat less sugar can become : I honor my body temple and give it what it really needs.

One of the reasons why people keep coming back to the unwanted behavior is because they keep focusing on it. Guilt is another reason. Feeling guilty undermine your selfesteem and you become more vulnerable to toxic substances. Blaming yourself won't help you. Another mistake someone who want to end an addiction could make, is believing that will power is the solution. Using will power to force a new beavior is a very limited strategy. It won't overcome the power of your imagination. No matter how much will power you use outside or yourself, just one thought about the instant pleasure your unwanted action could give you, could be enough to derail you. One great way to use willpower is inside! Train your brain to change its default mode.
Think constantly about your higher aspirations and deliberatly look for the reasons why it's possible to fulfill them. Finally you will reach a point where you will link much pleasure to what you want, and you will start to expect what you want to happen. Your addiction will just detach from yourself. And you will be free again.
In fact the way to kill an addiction is to stop feeding it.

One last thing that you could do is to focus on your real need behind the addiction. Nobody really wants to fill there cells with sugar. What they want is the release, the connection with themself or the pleasure. In the same way, nobody wants to have a sexual relationship with a computer or a TV screen! What they truly want is the feeling of intimacy, love, passion and pleasure. And there is a better way than sugar or porn. You are more powerful than you think. Greatness is within you. When you align yourself with your true self, anything become possible.

Go oustide more, breathe more, move your body more. It will ease the process. 

If you have been struggling with an addiction and you feel like you can't end itby yourseld, ask for help!  Talk to a professional and let this person help you!

You have unlimited power, and the best is yet to come!

To your succes and happiness,

Frederic

I am a profesional and personal development coach. I help my clients define their ideal life, and living it step by step.

Frédéric ARRON

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